Since you share your life with your cat, you have the unpleasant feeling that it does not like you. Worse, it hates you. However, you have done everything to try to bond with them… But is it really that it doesn’t like you or is it more a question of personality?
Your cat can’t hate you
Just because your cat never hugs you and runs away when it sees you doesn’t mean it hates you. Well, of course, said like that, it can raise questions… But in reality your cat cannot hate you. It is absolutely incapable of it.
And for good reason, you are the one who provides them with their food. As well as the refuge in which it feels safe. So unless you’re a real bully with your feline, it’s unlikely that it’ll harbor negative feelings towards you.
On the other hand, it is possible that it has a somewhat… wild personality. In this case, there is nothing you can do about it, except maybe try to coax it with treats.
Some of your actions may also tend to irritate them, which is why it sometimes gives you a contemptuous look.
Cats are attracted to certain people
Does your cat tend to ignore you, or even show aggression towards you? But it does not behave like this with your other half? There is also a reason for this.
You may have already noticed that cats are attracted to people who don’t like them. The reason is very simple: these people adopt a reassuring behavior for our feline friends. Indeed, they never look them in the eye, do not pay attention to them and do everything to avoid them.
Cats then tend to move towards such people because they are sure that they will not be trapped in an unwanted cuddling session. If your other half tends to ignore your cat when you’re more of a smothering type, then it’s only logical that it’s trying to run away from you.
Things to do to get your cat to love you
If you absolutely want your cat to be more demonstrative towards you, there are a few tips :
- Let them come to you: be indifferent towards your cat, it will eventually come to seek your attention.
- Never look them in the eye: it can be taken as an attack.
- Don’t pet them if it hasn’t asked you to: it’s up to them whether it wants to be touched or not. Put yourself in their place! Would you like someone to touch you or hug you when you don’t want to?
- Blink slowly while looking at them: this is what cats do to each other to greet each other and show their affection.
- Pay attention to their body language: In order to avoid becoming too intrusive for your cat, you need to be able to tell when it needs you to leave them alone. If it begins to nervously wag their tail or lower their ears back, move away.
And be careful, if your usually very cuddly cat suddenly changes its behavior and becomes distant, even aggressive, this could be a sign of an illness. In this case, a visit to the vet is in order.